Archive for March, 2014

Yet more on ‘Love’ 31 March 2014 Comments Off on Yet more on ‘Love’

Here’s what my favourite ‘love guru’ J David Richo http://davericho.com/ says about it all “Most people think of love as a feeling,” says David Richo, “but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present.”  Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships—one that focuses not on finding an ideal […]

More on ‘Love’. 27 March 2014 Comments Off on More on ‘Love’.

Here are some things that I finally learned love is not: * Needing a partner’s approval and/or admiration to be able to feel ’OK’ about myself (and consequently, getting angry or depressed if for some reason that seems to be missing) *Holding back from letting her really know ‘the real me’ because I’m afraid that […]

Thoughts on Love Comments Off on Thoughts on Love

Because I suspect it’s a term that is often used in all kinds of situations without the speaker or the receiver being sure exactly what is meant by it,  (and sometimes used, sadly, to manipulate or capture another person by feeding their ‘need to be loved’) I’ve been reflecting on what I mean when I […]

Unconcious discrimination against women 21 March 2014 Comments Off on Unconcious discrimination against women

I found this blog painful to read, but if we men want to  understand  the reality of being a woman in our society, and become better allies, partners and lovers, we need to know about these experiences. http://www.quora.com/Women/What-are-some-of-the-ways-women-are-discriminated-against-that-men-are-often-unaware-of?  кистиконсульство австрии киеввладимир мунтян семьяотзывы ооо полигон

“3 Common misconceptions women have about men”. 20 March 2014 Comments Off on “3 Common misconceptions women have about men”.

I got these from Christian Carter’s ‘dating website for women’. www.catchhimandkeephim.com Simplistic?  Yes. Useful?  Maybe. Making him a lot of cash?  Almost definitely! “Misconception #1: Men Are ‘Stronger’ In Most Relationships Here’s what the evidence shows: Men  take much longer to process a conflict and “come down” from it than a woman. Men remain stressed […]

“What does it mean to be a ‘good man’?” 19 March 2014 Comments Off on “What does it mean to be a ‘good man’?”

I couldn’t resist posting this thought provoking piece by Clementine Ford in The Daily Life http://www.dailylife.com.au/news-and-views/dl-opinion/what-does-it-mean-to-be-a-good-man-20140213-32klv.html “Whenever conversation is raised about patriarchy, violence and the lack of equality that still permeates our society, I find myself inundated with messages or comments from men offended by the discussion of male perpetrated violence. Most men, they take […]

’10 Habits of Happy Couples’ (plus some of my own) 11 March 2014 Comments Off on ’10 Habits of Happy Couples’ (plus some of my own)

I came across these ’10 Habitsof Happy Couples’ (in bold below) on the Psychology Today website (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/just-listen/200911/10-habits-happy-couples), but wanted  to expand on them (in italics)and added a few of my own at the end. ‘1. Go to bed at the same time’ And sometimes go to bed VERY EARLY! (i.e. the afternoon) to make time […]

An inspiring poem. 10 March 2014 Comments Off on An inspiring poem.

I just rediscovered these words by the very inspiring David Whyte, who works a lot using creativity in traditional corporate settings to encourage men in that world to open up to the wisdom of feelings. “When your eyes are tired the world is tired also. When your vision has gone no part of the world […]

What do women want from men? (One woman’s perspective) Comments Off on What do women want from men? (One woman’s perspective)

Recently received these helpful words from a woman friend, in answer to my ageold question:” What DOES a woman want from a man?”.  Seems simple enough! “Well I reckon these two things encompass and sum up everything (and maybe we all take time to get to a certain point in our emotional development before we […]

Men and isolation: a woman’s perspective 6 March 2014 Comments Off on Men and isolation: a woman’s perspective

I received this insightful and interesting letter from a woman friend. It reminded me of some wise words from my favourite ‘relationship guru’ David Richo who believes that for a healthy balance, an intimate relationship shouldn’t account for more that around 30% of the human contact needs of either partner. We men are often not […]

 
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